A few days ago I met this really cute bartender who sat in my bar and we seemed to have this chemistry. So much so that my waitresses commented on it. Well he sat with his group for a drink or two then before he walked out, he made a point to walk up to the bar and say goodbye to me, gave me the card for his place, told me the days he worked and asked me to drop by. So last night I did. I stopped by my bar beforehand to get a free drink in and ran into the guy I went out on the date with a while ago--you know, the shorter one. So he and I had a drink at my place and then he tagged along with me to the other place where the good looking guys works. I was kind of happy that I had a tag along, as I really wasn't feeling like sitting in there alone. So on we go, and the whole time I'm in there with my guy, the good looking guy keeps stopping over and chatting a bit, and again, the chemistry is so obvious that my guy keeps telling me that the guy totally wants me. He felt like he himself was in the way and also had to get up in the morning, so he took off. I sat there for one more beer by myself before leaving in the hopes that the good looking guy would chat with me a bit. He didn't. And in fact, I realised that for a bit before my guy left, he stopped coming over and flirting. Then I realised why. He was sitting at the end of the bar (in a position, mind you, to still keep an eye on me) talking to this girl who looked kind of familiar...kind of like the girl that was with him the night that he sat in my bar. The same girl that I wondered the first time if she was his girlfriend, and lo and behold, it was confirmed there at his bar. She was his girlfriend. Damn. I can't say I wasn't aggravated about the situation, but as I write this, I realise that he couldn't help having a girlfriend when he and I happened to have crossed paths. Double damn.
Now I am not a believer in leaving a lover for someone else, thus I cannot pursue anything further with this guy who, by all accounts, has a chemistry with me that is undeniable. I would not want to be the girl to chase a guy who has a girlfriend and try to make him leave her, creating a myriad of dramas that I just care not to be involved with. I don't care how many sparks he makes fly for me, I am not that kind of girl...
...which leads me to believe that is why I am still single after all this time. I'm a good girl who doesn't play games and I get left by the wayside over and over again in this stupid arena. And as much as it sucks to watch vapid, evil, superficial girls get most of the men, I still hold on to my ideals. And sure they don't keep me warm at night, but they sure as hell let me sleep well.
OK, stepping off the soapbox now.
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As someone who had to contend with knowing that there was "that other girl," some bitch who couldn't keep it in her pants and didn't give a sh*t that she was ruining someone else's relationship, thanks for not being her. Thanks for just walking away.
You might not have gotten that man but at least you can look at yourself in the morning and know that you're a good, honest, forthright person. And would you really want that man now anyway? Seriously, if he's going to do that to his girl now, what makes you think he wouldn't do it to you?
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